Remember
when you were young and you thought love was this invincible,
bulletproof force that was immune to outside influence, impervious to
evil and capable of overcoming all obstacles? And, then you found out
your girlfriend was sleeping with your best friend since a week after
you met, and that bubble was ruptured, never to be restored again.
Sorry. Maybe we got a little personal on that one. Maybe, you're one
of the lucky few who remains a fool for love, and the wool has yet to
wear away before your eyes. We hate to single-handedly destroy your
remaining naivete, but women do cheat. Thankfully, more often than not,
these kind of things don't often happen without some sort of warning. Or
in some cases, many. Here are intimations of infidelity that should
tentatively raise flags: 10 Signs Your Girlfriend Is Cheating On You.
By Larry
1.She pays more attention to her phone than you.
Sure, we're all guilty of being so overly engrossed in our digital lives that we neglect the present moment. But if she makes a continual habit of talking to her Twitter followers more than you during dinner dates, it may point to her lack of investment in the relationship, not just her fleeting attention span. We don't want to say she might be spending your night together making plans with someone else, but stranger things have happened.
2.she's less interested in sex.
We're not saying you should draw wild conclusions from a single "not tonight," but be aware of what normal looks like so you know when your sex schedule diverges from it, and take the time to discuss what the real issue is.
3.Her social calendar is suddenly bursting at the seams.
If you see your quality time slowly dwindling away, it absolutely points to her waning interest in the relationship, and it could mean she has transferred her affections elsewhere, or is at least entertaining the thought.
Independence is healthy, but a new-found focus on partying with her friends could mean she's putting herself out there again and is seriously considering pulling the plug on your love.
3.She accumulating new clothes at higher rates than usual.
Again, it's about a departure from the norm. If your girl normally puts on a full face of make-up to run errands, don't think twice about her putting on mascara to go to the dry-cleaners. But if she's a sweats-and-Chapstick type of chick, and she suddenly starts taking an hour to get ready to go out (particularly, without you), you have a reason to worry.
4.She's overly concerned with your whereabouts.
There's a real possibility she's under stress at work, or just in an emotional rut. But if you're able to rule that out (which you can do with a few simple questions) and you notice she rarely takes the initiative to text—and if she does, it's to ask where you are—she might be tracking your whereabouts for less than innocent reasons. We hate to be the ones to say it, but she's not suddenly interested in the minutiae of your day—she's covering her ass.
5.She isn’t making plans for the future.
It's possible she's overwhelmed at work or otherwise preoccupied; it's also possible she's plotting an escape and is hesitant to extend any invitations knowing she'll eventually have to rescind them. Or, even worse, she's too invested in someone new to realize she's been neglecting your shared social schedule.
6.She flirts with other people in front of you.
7.She starts pointing fingers in your direction.
8.She makes a point to say she’s unhappy.
Guilt is a tricky emotion, and she might feel that by fessing up to her flailing satisfaction in the relationship, she is offering you (and herself) an explanation for her selfish actions. Or, she could be gearing up to act on a long-held impulse, and making her excuses in advances so she can later utter, "I told you so," with aplomb.
We hate to be the ones to pry those stubborn eyelids open, but if your girl goes M.I.A. for days at a time, you need to stop making excuses and start getting answers.
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