These five quick tips will make any relationship
stronger. If you’re fed up of fighting, tired of trust issues or just
plain bored, read these five tips to make your relationship better:
Make your relationship better by addressing old issues
Fights, jealousy and previous misdemeanours upset our little bubble
of romance and can make relationships a tricky minefield. If you find
yourself constantly arguing over the same issues, or blowing up in anger
over the smallest of triggers, it may be because you and your partner
have not addressed some old issues. Next time this happens, try to stay
calm and work out why you have reacted in this way. If you recognise
that you are angry about something that has happened in the past it is
time to be brave and sit down with your partner to discuss it. Try not
to accuse them. Instead talk through the problem, being as clear as
possible about the way you feel. Try to look them in the eyes, as this
helps build trust and intimacy. Once you’ve talked through your feelings
attempt to work out a solution together. Although it may take a long
time to heal this unresolved issue, if you feel you cannot forgive the
person, it may be time to walk away. These issues will only continue to
repeat themselves.
Make your relationship better by taking time out
Between going to work, keeping fit and doing chores, it can be
difficult to find the time to spend some decent time with your partner.
In the UK alone, a typical childless couple only spends an average of
two and a half hours a day with their partner, and of that time nearly
an entire hour is spent watching TV. If that sounds familiar it’s time
to make some changes. Firstly, have a TV ban and take your partner on
some dates. If you’re struggling for ideas, pretend that you are going
on your first few dates. Where would you take a guy or girl to impress
them; a romantic hillside spot for a picnic or a trendy bar to see a new
band? Choose locations that allow you both to talk to one another and
ideally that are new to you both. Sharing new experiences will help
reinvigorate your love life and will bring you both closer together.
Remember, these dates are all about fun, so enjoy it
Make your relationship better by changing gender
The opposite $ex can seem like a different species. Men and women
have different habits, ideals and needs. Therefore it’s no surprise that
we often find it difficult to get along with each other. The key to a
good relationship is to understand that we are not alike. We will not
always share the same attitudes or perspectives. So, the next time your
guy tells you that you are overreacting, or your girl tells you that you
don’t care, listen to them. Instead of exploding with rage at their
idiocy, ask them why they think that and actually take what they say on
board. You then need to explain, clearly and calmly, why you think
otherwise. This is not to say that you should use their gender as an
excuse when they treat you badly. However, trying to get into one
another’s mindset and understanding why your partner acts in a certain
way may help you overcome many nasty obstacles and end a lot of fights.
Make your relationship better by getting more $ex
$ex can be a chore. After a long day at work do we really want
someone getting hot and sweaty on us? We could have another 20 minutes
in bed! Yet, the more we do it the more we want it. So at times,
although it sounds very unromantic, it can be best to just power through
and do it a few times a week. Once you’ve combated your reluctance,
you’ll reap all of the benefits. Not only are there zillions of health
perks to having regular $ex, your relationship will also benefit. This
is because when we have $ex the love drug, oxytocin, is released, which
makes us build up a strong bond with the guy or girl we’re in bed with.
It also promotes trust and makes us feel more generous towards one
another. The best way to get more $ex is to make sure you and your
partner consider it to be a priority. Also try to find a time that suits
you. If you get too tired to have $ex before bed, try to do it in the
morning or when you first get home.
Make your relationship better by spending time apart
Okay, we know that we are at risk of contradicting ourselves, but
relationships are all about balance. So although you need to make sure
you spend quality time together, it’s also not healthy to live in a two
person love nest constantly. Not only will your partner’s every move
start to irritate you beyond belief, but boredom may begin to creep into
your relationship. Having your own interests, social scene and hobbies
will help keep you stimulated, balanced and healthy, and these qualities
will inevitably also pass on into your relationship too. The trick to
spending time apart is to agree with your partner how much “time off”
you want to give each other. Once agreed, find something that excites
you. This may be a holiday with friends, a charity challenge or training
for a new event, like a 10k or marathon. Choose something that helps
you develop as an individual as this will help you feel more independent
and more interesting within yourself and your relationship.
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