It’s no secret that relationships require a lot of work. No matter
how happy you both are together, there will still be times that you rub
each other the wrong way — like when you load the dishwasher wrong, when
you eat the last Oreo (and don’t throw out the package) or when you
forget to call to say you’ll be 20 minutes late. But, somehow, you are
still truly, madly, deeply in love with each other. So how do you make
sure it’s that forever kind of love? Here are 6 ways to know that your
relationship is going to last a lifetime, regardless of those all those
little bumps you hit along the way.
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1. You know how to get your kiss on. We all know that intimacy is the
key to any good relationship, but it doesn’t always need to be the
intensely passionate, can’t-get-enough-of-you kind of intimacy. A simple
kiss hello or a bear hug before you head out for the day can really
strengthen your bond. It’s the little things that make all the
difference.
2. You’re on the same team. You may not always split your chores,
errands, and responsibilities 50/50, but you both know what it means to
pull your own weight. One week you may carry most of the burden, but the
next, it falls on your partner. Keeping a score card doesn’t do anyone
any good, so learn how to speak honestly about your needs while
respecting your partner’s. Don’t lose it because he forgot to take the
trash out one night or when she leaves a wet towel on the bed (again);
instead, accept that it’s a partnership and chip in whenever possible.
3. You can still surprise each other. Whether you’ve been together
for four months or four years, spontaneity is everything. Obviously
major secrets aren’t cool, but neither is being predictable. Changing
things up every so often will keep your partner on his/her toes…and that
spark alive. But remember, surprises don’t need to be over-the-top; you
can go simple (like bringing home her favorite ice cream, making a
reservation at that restaurant he’s been talking about) and still make
your mark. You love each other for a reason, but the unexpected is what
makes being together so.much.fun.
4. You know how to spend time apart. There are times when the saying
“absence makes the heart grow fonder” really rings true. And whether you
live together or not, spending a night or two apart can actually make
your relationship stronger. So don’t underestimate those girls’ or boys’
nights out! But it’s also important to know when you should turn down
an invitation to spend some quiet time together. Just because you spend
all your time together doesn’t make it quality time; set aside one night
a week as date night. Make a reservation at a new place, leave the cell
phones at home (or in your pocket), and just enjoy each other’s
company.
5. You say “I love you” often…and you ALWAYS mean it. Remember the
feeling you felt the very first time you said “I love you” to your
partner? There were definitely butterflies involved. But if you’ve been
together for a while, those three little words can start to lose their
meaning. “I love you” suddenly becomes as uneventful as a hello or
goodbye. So make sure you say it often, but make sure you’re not saying
it absentmindedly.
6. You understand what “unconditional” means. Every relationship has
its ups and downs, but knowing how to look past those hard times is what
will take you into the big leagues. Yes, the going WILL get tough, but
knowing you’re both in it for the long run is essential to getting
through those bumps. Being angry is healthy, but resentment is not. So
fight and talk things out, but then apologize and find a way to move on
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